How to be a powerful connector without feeling used

How to be a powerful connector without feeling usedHow to be a powerful connector without feeling usedRecently, a Bossed Up podcast listener called in with a career conundrum all about how to provide advice and encouragement to budding professionals without feeling used and burned when her prospective proteges up and ghost herDont get me wrong I want all of us to lift as we climb and support one another. But Bossed Up women including those of us who find ourselves in the position of mentoring and counseling others along the way must set clear boundaries for how we give back.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreSet boundaries for giving backOne thing to consider is to set limits on how many of behauptung meetings youll take. Perhaps you can justify mentorship meetings once a month or once a week.Whatever you make space for, send the folks who ask for your counsel aCalendlylink thats set up to just allow them to book time on your schedule during those limited hours. That way, you know youre making yourself available to give back, but also can protect your time, too.Ask more of the person whos asking for helpSecond, its perfectly fine to ask more of the folks you choose to mentor. When I meet with people like this, Im promising them a certain amount of my focused time. The follow-up game is really up to them to pursue.During our initial meeting Ill typically drop a few names of people who Id bewillingto connect them with. I tellthemto first do their due diligence and look those folks up before I introduce them, so they can be sure that yes, that is someone theyd be interested in being connected with. Otherwise, we run the risk of connecting people before theyre sure its what they really need and want.From there, I always ask the folks I mentor to send me a quick introductory paragraph I should use when introducing them. This allows them to ensure that Im introdu cing them by highlighting whats most important for their purposes, and it saves me the time, energy, and effort of writing up my own little explanation of who they are and why theyd like to connect.At the end of my mentorship meetings, I tell them Ill respond to their email when they send me those two things a list of the folks theyve vetted to make sure they want to be introduced toandthe blurb I should use when making the connection.Opt for the double opt-inFinally, its always best to opt for the double opt-in before introducing someone. By that I mean, email your contactfirstto get their permission to be connected. In the spirit of ensuring that none of us feel used while supporting other professionals on the rise, this is key before you CC everyone together, get permission to connect folks first.Ive written in the pastabout how I used to jump the gun and make this networking mistake. But it can earn you a reputation for taking your connections for granted, so dont make the same rookie error.If you get ghosted, its not about youKeep in mind if the folks you mentor completely ghost on you after you made time to give them advice thats not about you, boo. Thats on themOn next weeks boss tip podcast, well turn the tables on this question and answer another listener career conundrum about how to slay the follow-up game when youre the one asking to pick someones brain over coffee, so stay tunedThis article originally appeared on BossedUp.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

9 Top Female Models You Need to Follow on Social Media

9 Top Female Models You Need to Follow on Social Media9 Top Female Models You Need to Follow on Social MediaIts no secret that social media has changed the modeling industry. Thanks to popular networks like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, we no longer have to wait a whole month for the next issue of Vogue to update us on the latest fashion trends. We dont have to travel to Paris and get a front-row seat at Fashion Week, either, or bump into Gisele at Starbucks to know how her day is going.No, these days models are more than happy to give their fans real-time insight into their not-so-exclusive worlds. And while its true that some models are contractually obligated to tweet up a storm, fruchtwein do it because its fun and because its an easy way to build their brands. Clients prefer models who have a strong social media following because it means theyll get more exposure.So whether youre looking for inspiration for your own modeling career or cant get enough of your favorite models, these are the ladies you need to check out online. 01Kendall JennerGetty Images for Veuve Clicquot / Getty ImagesCoco Rocha is an outgoing and outspoken social media master. Shes acquired millions of followers across 13 social media platformsand wants nothing more than to use her power for good. Cocos all about being a role model and making the industry a safer and healthier place for both new and experienced models.

What makes a killer headshot, from photographers

What makes a killer headshot, from photographersWhat makes a killer headshot, from photographersEven if you prefer making your magic behind the camera - the digital age of social media means networking, job applications, and anything-everything means your face is everywhere. Regardless of industry or how comfortable you feel with a flashing light, headshots are the logo of our personal brands and can communicate many things about us in a single leumund, according to photographer and graphic designer Jorge Rocha.Everything from a perceived intelligence level to social status can be conveyed through a headshot. Its paramount to be aware of ansicht aspects and give considerable thought to the image you want to convey to the world, and also recognize what is most appropriate, he explains.Though the sort of headshot that youll see for a model or an actor isnt the type youll end with, having a clear, attractive and professional image you can use for your various profiles puts your - ahe m - best face forward. Here, tips from photographers on how to smile pretty - and smartlyHire a photographerSure, its easy enough to give your friend or the office intern a camera and hope for the best, but for stellar results that tell your story and wont make you cringe, portrait and travel photographer Sean Marier says it is worth the investment to hire a professional.His tip is to cater your selection to what mood or goal youre going for- whether thats something super traditional and buttoned up or something more casual and lifestyle-oriented.Im amazed daily by the number of people on LinkedIn, personal websites and elsewhere who use unprofessional smartphone photos to represent themselves to prospective employers, cropping out friends or cocktails from a poorly lit photo that was never meant to serve as a headshot, he says. If you dont care, why should that hiring manager?Choose the right outfitNo matter the profession, what you wear is at the centerpiece of your image - and most likely what theyll notice as soon as they glimpse. Rocha recommends avoiding thin patterns, graphic logo t-shirts or any brand names that can be distracting.Solid, neutral tones are typically best as they can work with a myriad of backgrounds, depending on the type of shoot, he suggests.Bright colors, as long as they arent too neon can add dimension and character, as well.Have your hair and makeup done professionallyAnd hey - this doesnt just go for women, but for men too.Even if you know what youre doing when it comes to the glam in your daily life, hair and makeup for photography is a different beast - especially, though not exclusively, if youre shooting your headshots in a studio with bright and hot lights, Marier explains.He notes it is worth the extra investment to hire a team to come to the shoot, making fixes on the fly an option.You should choose a hair and makeup person who specializes in the type of photos youre shooting, and splurge a few extra bucks to have them with you during the shoot for touch-ups and the like, he says. It is one less thing to stress out about - since stress shows itself in a multitude of ways, and cant be Photoshopped.Rotate your bodyIt might not seem like a big deal, but Rocha says a simple positioning of your body can turn heads. Instead of looking directly at the camera, turning a fourth away takes you from mugshot snapshot to portrait mode instantly. When you work with a photographer, they can demonstrate the best ways to maneuver to make koranvers you look polished, healthy and of course, like the best person for your dream gig.Turn on your favorite playlistYour kid sister or best friend might ham it up in front of the camera, with endless selfies and seemingly-perfect images splashed over Instagram - but youre not quite as comfortable with the flash on. Rocha says great photographers will ensure you feel your absolute best under the lights and even make suggestions on how to loosen up.If youre really nervous a bout being in front of the camera, queue up your favorite playlist on your phone to have some music playing and that can be a great way to ease nerves, he suggests.Or, perhaps you need to jog in place for a minute, dance it out or a combo of it all. Whatever gets you feeling your most glam, thats your golden ticket.Know your audienceWhile a travel journalist can get away with a photograph standing atop a mountain and call it professional, if youre applying to be a CPA you might want to rethink it. As Marier explains, research is important.Check out a handful of websites representing the types of companies youd like to work for and see how they spotlight their employees. Those will generally be a pretty good guide, he recommends.If you find yourself unsure of what direction to take, err on the slightly conservative side, while also showing your personality with a big smile or an accessory that pops. Your photographer can always guide the direction if styling isnt your strong suit.